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Maximise Your Potential By Doing This... #246

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it's time to get masculine as fuck with your time scheduling. Like, why the fuck does everyone manage their time wrong? I've been noticing a trend happening in like my set the standard community and my one-on-one clients and I'm like, why? Why are we getting our time management wrong all the time? It's like we're trying to cram too much into one day instead of spacing things out and we have this symptom of being busy and not actually productive. And I'm like, well, why is it the case that this is happening? And I sort of come to the realization, this realization on this, with interacting with my partner, how she manages her time and how I manage my time and how I would nice guy syndrome people pleaser go, oh, I'll do what you're doing so I can go and hang out, like with you. And just noticing that all of my productivity was getting shot, I was like, why am I so not productive, even though, like, it's decently productive but not as productive as what I could be. So I've changed it up, like the last six weeks, and I've just been feeling incredible Because, especially when it comes to time management, I believe this technique is so simple, right, and you have to wait to the end until I show you what it is, but I want to teach you why, so that you know how to implement it, why to implement it?

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So that, once you've listened to this, you actually go and implement it right. So there's so many productivity books and hacks and personal growth seminars to get to, and I get frustrated, because I think most men go to these, or people go to these in particular, is because they keep asking themselves the question what the fuck am I supposed to be doing with my life right now? What am I supposed to be doing right now that's going to get me towards my goal the quickest? Like? We're always asking ourselves that question like what the fuck am I supposed to be doing right now, in this moment? Right, and personally, I think that all the work, the energy, the effort, the negative experiences and the frustrations that occur stem from just not knowing how to organize our time efficiently, of being like this is exactly what I want to do, this is when I want to do it, and this is how I'm going to do it for this amount of time period, because I think that there is one thing that we all have in common it's the amount of time that we share and what we do with that time is like a different story between different individuals. So, no matter what level of success that you're at or where you're at in life, there is.

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The reason that we don't manage our time well is because we come up against the devil of uncertainty. So we feel that emotion, uncertainty which makes us feel scared to face when we're just unsure of what to do, or if what we're doing in this moment, right now, is the right thing to do, if what we're doing tomorrow is the right thing to do. And when we feel uncertain about that, boom, frustration, depression, anxiety, loss, stuck everything right. And we can't escape that. Not one person, I believe, is, doesn't have that experience at any time. We all come against that. Every new level that we evolve, I believe that our nervous system and capacity grows so that we can adjust to that right.

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So I love this quote. Check this quote out all of humanity's problems stem from a man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone. Okay, so this is number one. So, before I get into the tool that I'm going to give you, this quote shows the one problem that we have when it comes to getting clear on what we should be doing with our time and that is being alone, spending time to be completely alone in our silence, in our own thoughts, so that we can work through all of the you could say the wound upness of thoughts that we haven't cleared, so that we can get down to the core of what we actually want to do and remember that's step number one. And if you're unsure about how to spend your time and you're unsure of like, okay, what should I actually be doing, is cultivate alone time without distractions. So for me I just booked Airbnbs away.

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Or some people go deeper into you know, vipassanas or deep meditative states, or retreat weekends and even like with our retreats that we run like the Next Level Retreat. I think what's so cool about that is? Well, a huge benefit of it is it's just a way for the weekend with different people, like you're not doing the mundane, you're not stuck in your routine, like you're actually taking just a weekend just to be away with like a group of people who are going to raise your standards right. So, like we, we do that at the set, the standard community. And, you know, one huge benefit is all of the crazy facilitation that we do like it's one of the most intense retreats. I was talking to a one-on-one this morning and he was like man, that retreat is so intense, everything you do there is like the best. And he's like I'm wondering which one's the next one I'm going to go to, because he's like I feel like I need to get like smashed again. But that's what one benefit. But the other benefit is just having that alone time, which I think is really cool.

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So step two is this our lives are so fast-paced and chaotic, especially in the modern world right and compare our lives to humanity a hundred years ago. The amount of stimulus that we receive now, compared to back then, is mind-blowing. So even right now I'm looking at myself on a screen right here, I'm paying attention to my recording on here, making sure that I'm trying not to jiggle this going on. I've got this screen with alerts coming up in front of my face, reading out a script that I've just write. I'm doing a live at the same time, like some people on here what's up guys? And it's just like that is so much stimulus as well as fake light coming in this way, real light coming in that way. Even just now, like and I've had caffeine, so like, could I be any more stimulated? Probably not. So I read that and it's just. It just goes to show that like, okay, we have a lot more stimulus now is what we did ages ago.

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So I read that some german scientists were predicting that in like 50 80 years from now in the book the biology of transcendence, that when we're more advanced than what we are currently, if our brains of the past, like our brains a hundred years ago, we'll have to face and cope with the stimulus that we will be experiencing in 50 to 80 years from now, from the trajectory that we're going, that our brains would just short circuit and we'd die. Our brains would just short circuit and we'd die because the amount of stimulus would be too much. And think about it If you think about some of these video editors and they got this huge screen and they're just like do like a hundred things at once, it's crazy. Do I actually believe that our brains would short circuit? No, can we take wisdom from that theory though? Yes, for sure.

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If we have hundreds and hundreds of tasks and thousands of pieces of stimulus per day, what can we do? So this is the tool. This is how we do masculine time management planning. I'm going to provide you like this hack, which I believe is one of the best hacks that I get my one-on-one clients to do, and I figured this out for myself and it's so simple and it's just a certain process and a tool that you can run through to batch your time. So, if you're masculine at heart and you like to work and get shit done, do not approach the majority of your work from a feminine perspective. Structure is what will set you free.

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So, as I mentioned from the start, when it comes to my partner, if I'm trying to, you know work how she's working. She can have breakfast, do a little bit of work, go for a walk, um, have a talk with a friend, go over here, do some more work, come back over here, work a little bit again and then come back, dive in deep for like three, four hours and then come back out, get a coffee, go for like, like whatever it is that you know she's doing. And I found that every time that I was around her while she was working, we we'd do a work day together. Was I'm like how, why the hell can't I concentrate? I can't get shit done? It's because she's in flow. Right, she's in flow and her flow is I can do this and I can go here and I can do this, and I can go here and I can. I can have a list of a hundred things to do in a day and I'll get them done For me. I'm like this is a Thursday morning.

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I do a whole lot of content recording, so I come, I record this podcast and then the next three hours I do all of my content recording for a week or two and I've created all of this content because it's part of my job creating content. So that, for me, feels incredible, because it's like, wow, I've got all this done. Now I don't have to worry about it for the rest of the week. I don't have to think, oh, there's another thing that I have to do. Today it's just one per week. I've created a lot more room in my brain and I felt that over the last like five, six weeks of I'm applying what I'm going to teach you to my calendar and my routine, I'm like, wow, I've got so much space and I have so much free time and most of the day I'm just stressing out about shit that I should be doing. But now it's like, oh, I did that like three days ago, which feels incredible.

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So, if you're going from one task to the next and then back to the old task and then trying something new, you're robbing yourself of true creativity because you're removing the walls. The feminine need to feel stable and get creative right. So, having better structure, we have longer time as the masculine, to work on one specific task or one project for long periods of time. It's like you've put up walls that contain, can hold the you know the weight of a pool, right. If you think about a pool being like the water in a pool being feminine energy if there's no walls there, just goes and absorbs into the ground, right. But if you put some walls up and some structure, then the pool is a pool and you can go swimming in the pool, you can have pool parties in the pool, we can run laps. You can, you know, chill in the pool, like whatever it is. It's like okay, now there's like this feminine aspect that it brings there that you can, you know, create, which I think is extremely powerful.

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So, from monday to friday, what I found out is that there's 10 work sprints. Right for you, for maximum productivity, only 10 during the week. This is perfectly aligned with your circadian rhythm. You can get the app rise and have a look at this. There's a lot of science and a lot of data around this, but our circadian rhythm shows that after about one or two hours of us waking up, we slowly build up to an energy spike that lasts for two hours, and then we slowly build down to a peak that lasts for about an hour. Then we slowly build up for another energy peak for about one to two hours. Right, and it makes sense with siestas and you know the whole theory of europe when they have naps in the middle of the day. But yeah, we slowly build, slowly build up for another peak to one or two hours. So we've got essentially like a three to four hour period in the morning and a three to four hour period at nighttime.

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So this is the exercise that you do you draw out seven columns one, two, three, four, five, six, seven and then label them Monday, tuesday, wednesday, thursday, friday, saturday, sunday and then you group like you just put, that is, group all of your tasks and combine them into topics. So you have like a category of tasks. So one for me is creating content, another one for me is script writing. Another one for me is sending a whole bunch of dms. Another one for me is team meeting day, so have all these different topics I'll do one is writing a whole bunch of emails. Another one is, you know, um, organizing our retreats, so throughout the, and then I've got one that's like um, uh, or coordinating all my finances.

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So there's essentially like six things that I have to do during the week and I figured out I'm like that's all I need to do for a week to manage everything that I've got. I'm like what? There's only five to six things that I need to do to make my whole business run, my whole life thrive, and then I can just fit in life and things I want to do in the rest of all those tasks. And I'm like why do I have so much time? And I look at this it's like a lot of us have fear of space, right, and fear of, you know, having so much time and abundance, which is a little bit scary. Um, what happens is because you're so productive in a couple of hour period is that it's like goodbye, like you can fit more room into everything else and you feel so much more productive.

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So essentially, yeah, you organize your day into 10 different tasks, then you group all of your tasks together into a minimum of categories of five to 10 topics, right One that you can complete the task, like, let's say, for example, if it's a if you, if you're a tradie and you own a small tradie business and you've got invoicing cool Invoicing Tuesday morning, every morning for like three to four hours. I don't touch any other invoicing other than that specific morning. I do not touch any of my invoices, I just get all of them done once per week, so then I can actually get to bed at a certain time instead of having to go to bed every single night of the week Like shit, I've just finished work. And now you also want to include, during your time, one to three free time categories where you just have space. So for mine it's like every second Wednesday and every Thursday afternoon free time. It's like sweet, this is gonna be free. And Friday actually.

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So so it's like two to three times per week now where it's like I'm just creating space to do what the hell I want to do. If I want to work, I work. If I want to have free time, if I want to see friends, whatever it is I'm gonna go see my friends and then you um organize your topics from the most important to the least important and then you input them into your columns from the most important on mondays to the most important on to the least important on fridays, and then remember as well to put your most important tasks in the morning and the least important tasks in the afternoon. So that's how you go. So the most important task for you to do is Monday morning, every single morning. So that way your week is organized. So you're getting you know. Once you have energy or recharge from a Sunday, you have all the energy to crush it. So once you've completed that into your like table there's a table that I'm sending out an email which basically is Monday, tuesday, wednesday, thursday, friday, all the way to Sunday. You've just got morning and afternoon and you just put in your one task to do in the morning and your one task to do in the afternoon or if it's a free time for the entire week, and then you go and put that into your Google calendar or your private calendar or your personal calendar, and then you just protect that time with your boundaries, using boundaries and using communication to protect that.

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And what is so insane? I know I've already said this, but I want to say it again is when you figure out how much time that you actually have and how much time that you've been wasting trying to do everything in one day rather than batching your tasks, it blows your mind. I cannot believe the amount of time that I've had and I've had to just like let go and gone. I've got like two hours. What do I want to do with this time? I've done everything else that I need to do. Cool, let's read a book, let's call a friend, let's clean the house, let's do this thing. So there's so much room and space to allow your brain to get more creative. Then I have better ideas and I think about this. Or I'm going to do some, some more self-reflection time. Oh, I get to have this time spending for me, which is insane.

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So this is a way of using masculine structure by focusing on, you know, one to two tasks for a long period of time, so that you can get really creative and get heaps done, so that you can create more space in your week and in your day and in your life, so that you can have more space for loved ones. You can have some more space and time for yourself. You can have more space to work on your business instead of in your business and not feel so stressed, anxious and pushed and pressured all the time to be busy and not productive. So if you like this, please give us a follow. I would love for you to give us a follow. That'd be fantastic. I'm putting out these most days and if you want to dive in deeper and you want to be held accountable, come and join Set the Standard community. You guys get a 10% off If you join for a year. It's at $650 per month, every single month. So $65 off of that. So thank you, guys. So much Big love. See you in the next one.